How to prepare your child for their new sibling’s arrival

Are you expecting baby number 2? (Or 3 or 4?!)

Well, if you have a little one at home who is used to getting almost all of your attention, then it’s going to important that you take steps now to prepare your child for their new sibling’s arrival.

Because, let’s face it, even with the very best of intentions, there will naturally be less time for you to focus on your other children in the initial weeks and months after the new baby comes along.

Even with lots of help from your partner, your parents, friends and other family members, your new baby needs you. And there’s no denying it – you’re going to be torn in many different directions once the new baby is here.

How to prepare your child for their new sibling’s arrival

So, what can parents-to-be do to get their child (or children) used to the idea of a new baby? Here are my top tips:

1.       Get them involved early

Talking to your child and encouraging them to get excited about your new baby from early on in the pregnancy is a great idea. Give them as much time as possible to get used to the idea of there soon being a new person joining the household.

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You could show them the scan pictures you have taken at 12 and at 20 weeks. Or better still, even take them along to the scanning and midwife appointments so that they can feel part of the process and hear the baby’s heartbeat.

When looking at the scan pictures, point out the baby’s head, body, arms and legs. Make them aware that there really is a real, live baby inside their mummy’s tummy – of course, it’s hard for children, especially young children, to imagine this.  

You can even involve them in the decisions you’ll be making during your pregnancy about what baby clothes or toys to buy as well as things like how to decorate their nursery.

2.       Provide plenty of reassurance

The main concern your child may have is that they will no longer be as important to you as they are right now. Which is a completely natural fear and very typical response to a situation like this. Of course, no-one wants to feel pushed out.

So, ensure that you provide lots of cuddles and reassurance that nothing will change about their relationship with you.

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Which leads me onto…

3.       Find time for them

I’d suggest that you continue to make plenty of time for your child both during the pregnancy and after the new baby is born.

While they’ve been young, you’ve no doubt started routines that include one-on-one time with them. Maintain those routines that they have come to know and love – the bedtime stories or the weekend trip to the park or swimming baths.

This will all help them to feel secure and loved, and to feel involved, even after the arrival of the baby.

And, also allow them plenty of time to ask questions about the new baby, (yes, perhaps even how the baby got into your tummy!), and answer them as best you can, to eliminate any queries or concerns they may have.

4.       Talk to them about what it will be like to have a sibling

Excite your child about the new baby’s arrival by talking about all the good things that will come of them having a new brother or a sister – both immediately, and longer term.

Most children will love the idea of having a playmate, for example. Talk about all the fun that they will have together as they grow up side by side.

Talking about what life will be like once their new sibling has been born is a great way for them to start imagining the new baby being around.

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5.       Buy them gifts once the new baby has arrived

If your child see’s the new baby getting lots of gifts and cards when they are born, and they get nothing, they may get upset. So, prepare for this advance.

Buy him/her a gift or two (it needn’t be expensive) or ask the family to bring along gifts for both children so that this doesn’t escalate into a problem.

You could even tell them that they are gifts from their new brother/sister, just to help things get off on the right foot!

6.       Book a newborn photoshoot and involve the older child(ren)

Finally, since you’re probably looking to book a newborn photoshoot so that you can preserve the magical first weeks of your new baby’s life in photos, remember to involve your other child or children in that.

Here at Bundles of Joy Photography, we love involving siblings in newborn photoshoots. So, if you’d like us to, we can take photos of your children together, like the ones I’m sharing here.

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They’ll be able to look back on these beautiful pictures in years to come. Making them feel involved in their new sibling’s photoshoot will be a great way of encouraging a strong relationship between them from the start.

So, I hope these tips have been useful? If you have any further tips on how to prepare your child for their new sibling’s arrival, please share them in the comments below.

You can book your newborn photoshoot with me by calling 07973 939 522, emailing me at photos@bundlesofjoyphotography.co.uk or by completing this contact form.

Thanks for reading and I look forward to meeting you!

Georgina x

Three places to visit in the Peak District

If you didn’t already know, the Bundles of Joy Photography HQ is in Froggatt, in Hope Valley (see the map on our Contact page for our exact location).

It’s a beautiful part of the U.K. and there are loads of places to visit in the Peak District.

It’s the perfect place to get out and about in the great outdoors, since there’s so much to do, like riding, cycling and walking. Or it's equally great if you’re after a beautiful location and a spot of low-intensity sight-seeing.

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Personally, I just love living and working here.

The Peak District is stunningly beautiful all year round. So, if you’ve never made a trip here, I highly recommend you get it on your 2018 to-do list!

Travelling to the Peak District?

Many of our newborn portrait photography clients, who aren’t from the local area, choose to make their trip up to us and then spend some time here.

A sort of mini holiday or ‘baby moon’.

And because they’re new to the area, they’re often asking me and my assistant Sue (who’s my mum by the way) where they should visit.

Georgina (left) and Sue (right) of Bundles of Joy Photography

Georgina (left) and Sue (right) of Bundles of Joy Photography

So, with this in mind, I wanted to list a few of the not-to-be-missed attractions in the Peak District in case this is also useful to you.

Why not plan a ‘baby moon’ in the Peak District?

Perhaps you’re considering booking your newborn photoshoot with us and are out of the area?

Well, if so, why not do as many of my other clients do? Make the trip here part of a short break and see the very best of what the area has to offer?

Make it an overnight stop or stay for a few days – whatever suits you best.

Newborn portraits by Bundles of Joy Photography

Newborn portraits by Bundles of Joy Photography

If you’re first time parents, with a new baby in tow, it will be your first family holiday. And a great way to start your new life as a family of three!

The clean fresh air will do the baby a lot of good, and you can enjoy yourself altogether, away without the constant visits from friends and relatives.

And you can eat out or get a takeaway – no need to wash up or clean the house – sounds perfect to me!

My top three places to visit in the Peak District

If you do decide to explore the local area when you visit me for your newborn photoshoot, here are my recommendations for places to visit in the Peak District:

1.       Chatsworth House

Chatsworth House is a lavish stately home in Bakewell, Derbyshire, DE45 1PP. It has 30 rooms for you to explore as well as 105 acres of stunning gardens, and a farmyard and adventure playground. Definitely on the must-visit list if you're coming to this area!

To find out more visit https://www.chatsworth.org/

2.       Froggatt & Curber Edge

The Froggatt and Curber Edge walk is a circular route through a beautiful part of the Peak District, which returns along the River Derwent. If you like walking, don’t miss this!

To find out more visit http://snapthepeaks.co.uk/peak-district-walks/curbar-edge-and-froggatt-edge-walk/

Photo by Grant Richie

Photo by Grant Richie

3.       Bakewell

Bakewell is a small market town, made famous by the delicious Bakewell pudding that originates from here. Be sure to try one and take some home with you when you visit!

Bakewell is located alongside the River Wye and is full of beautiful traditional stone buildings. If you’re visiting on a Monday don’t miss the markets in the town centre, which includes a livestock market.

And since all that sight-seeing is likely to be thirsty work, I thought I’d also list a couple of my favourite watering holes!

1.       Public House: The Moon Inn in Stony Middleton

The Moon Inn is a traditional country pub, surrounded by the stunning countryside of the Peak District. And one of my favourites in the area.

It serves locally-sourced home-cooked food, fine wines, real ales and over 50 specialist gins! As well as being a pub, there are also five luxury en-suite rooms, so it’s a good option for an overnight stay too.

To find out more visit https://www.themooninn.com

2.       Public House: The Devonshire Arms in Baslow

This is another great pub which also has 11 rooms so could accommodate you overnight. It’s located on the doorstep of Chatsworth House and serves great food.

To find out more visit http://www.devonshirearmsbaslow.co.uk/

So, I hope that’s useful!

And if you do decide to make a trip to the local area after your newborn photoshoot, be sure to ask Sue and I for more tips when you get here.

There are too many beautiful places to list, but we’d be more than happy to point you in the right direction if you’re after an unforgettable first family holiday!

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In the meantime, you can get further inspiration and details of places to visit in the Peak District from the Visit the Peak District website.

You can book your newborn photoshoot with me by calling 07973 939 522, emailing me at photos@bundlesofjoyphotography.co.uk or by completing this contact form.

Thanks for reading and I look forward to meeting you!

Georgina xx

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